My baby's first journey

Shin have done a great milestone from 0 to 11 months. He made you smile, he made you laugh and he made you to giggle looking at his bubbly pictures. Friends, this time I will show you his first step. He made an outstanding achievement at 11 months and 7 days. Join my baby Shin on first journey. He will turn 1 year old with 6 teeth, can recognize some words, can follow simple instruction and walk confidently.

Virtual love

We live in a world that is constantly in change and this includes online dating/ chatting. Online dating doesn't seem very real to me. Sure, people do meet and fall in love over the internet but I still don't believe in it. It is said to be the safest place to find your soulmate. Yes, I believe so rather than meeting a girl in bar which might be a carrier of some disease. I personally never used online dating. To me, this is the most deperate way I will do if I cant find a boyfriend in person. I think confident, beautiful and intellegent people will not go for this easy love. Its scary and its difficult to trust people you dont know. I will give real-life some more time perhaps I'm a very realistic person and I dont want do deal with fantacy. I believe, if you are social enough (has friends, goes out regularly, you can show everybody who you are) then you don’t need to hide yourself in virtual world. You definitely can learn more about a person by meeting them than you can by talking to them on the internet. I consider myself broad minded but recently its getting alarming knowing some of my country girls are making this as a solution to get out of the country, to escape poverty in the Philippines oh my I was flabbergasted.　

I’m not saying that virtual love couples are not ideal couples. Infact, I have met many here which made to realize that Virtual love is God-made idea created my human to meet their true love no matter how big the world is. For those who finished college and or worked in any decent profession in the Philippine is an exemption to this however to those female who thinks I dont need a diploma to go to aboard because marrying this foreinger online will lead me to my american dream duh I pity for you men. I just noticed that foreigners who were into virtual love are mostly divorced and with kids　out of previous marriage. I’m just wondering that marrying someone in the net might be more understanding of your situation than finding your love in reality.

One of my classmates told me that Filipinas who were in online dating/chat are;

*the "leftovers" thus they failed to succeed marrying the guy in their dreams in-person so their last option is the virtual love

*most of this female are 2nd hand- means they had a children from the previous relationship they cannot marry same nationality because its a taboo on our culture aside from that Filipino guy cannot afford support their kids. I bow to foreigner who loves to do charity hehehe.

*They are females who are not interested in getting degree rather they dream to be instant millionaire by mere sitting on the internet café and wait until foreigner catch their attention.

I was deeply hurt of what he said　but I can’t blame him for he experienced it. For the foreigners who are looking for Filipina fiancée. Are you ready to support and embrace not just we but also our family in the Philippines? Filipinas might not be that frank like Caucasian, Chinese, Korean and Japanese girls in terms of monetary support but inside marriage they might regret not telling you “Please support my family too”.

To Filipina mind marrying foreigner is one of the answers to escape our dying country, an avenue to succeed in career when we get to the foreign land, a dream of having a prefect combination of mix genes and a haven to meet soulmate.

Ladies and Gentlemen, there's nothing wrong in virtual love. With so many people using the internet, chances are great to find your mate, provided please use your common sense, a lot of patience and willingness to take a budding online relationship into the real word. If you feel comfortable with the Internet and online dating/chat, the world is literally your own little oyster. Go out and find the pearl you are seeking.

My baby talks inside my womb

Aside from funny couple we are also sprightly couple. Talking about babies before getting married, I am less interested to have a baby girl because I might be jealous. Tomo's attention will be focus on her not to me anymore. I will have a rival for short. Tomo as well didn't want a boy coz he will be insecure. I will love the boy more than him. He wants to the sole Flo's baby. So we enjoyed each other first. After 1 year of marriage and after the completion of our 3 weddings. Its ironic of what we liked before.

Now that I'm pregnant, I prefer baby girl. Tomo's likes to have a baby boy. However, either as long as its healthy. At 14 weeks we can be able to know the gender but we prefer to keep it secret because we are studying on how to make boy or girl in the future. We want 4 kids if given a chance. Also, we plan to know it just 1 month before giving birth because my excited parents in law will shop a lot of baby's stuff as early as now if they happen to know it. I will have troublesome organizing my closet because of the change in season.

At night, I always ask my baby what time Fafa is coming. Sometimes he wont knock my tummy but nearly Fafa is approaching our house my baby will kick several times. So I will run in the hallway to hug Fafa and wait for the present he have. Sometimes Fafa will scold us because its cold outside we might catch a cold and what if I stumble. But I explained to him that your baby kicks my stomach that is why I knew your on your way. Althroughout my pregnancy my baby becomes my buddy.

Before going to bed, we always read him a tales. Actually, I couldn't understand because its nihonggo yet my baby is restless if the story is happy. Sometimes if the story is sad my baby is not moving, I think he fell asleep. After each story we will ask him/her about the gender. Fafa said, Nozomi chan are you a girl?....silent no response. Then its my turn to ask him, Shingo kun are you a boy?...hehehe he happily kicks my tummy. Then Fafa and him will start playing kicking game. Until, several weeks before my due date. We asked the doctor about our baby's gender. Ohhh he is correct he is a BOY! Our baby is amazingly smart. Even in my tummy he can be able to communicate with us. So parents-to-be out there please talk to your womb and make rapport to stimulate his brain.

Pregnancy delights

I love to eat. When I got pregnant the more I became bodacious eater. Its funny because I never craved for filipino foods. Actually, my taste buds already forgot my native cuisine instead I'm more global and most likely asian eater.

I craved for spicy Korean, Thai nad Chinese foods during those times. Not so much fond of Japanese food coz I hated the mirin,　sake and the kind of sweet taste food of Japanese which is ironic!

For Korean delicacies, I craved for bim bim bap and kimchi.
For Thai food, I craved for tom yam soup, olive rice, and cry green chicken.
For Chinese food, I befriended many of my Chinese classmates and asked them to give me any kind of foods they prepare at home. Also, the Singapore fish ball...hmmm I love it! So I asked my Japanese friend to send me Indonesian food especially the spicy nasi goring.
For American food just a burger, a quater pounder with cheese hahaha and French food which is elegant and nicely presented on the table. And not as simple as that. I wanted to eat the food which was prepared by native chefs. I dont want to go to the restaurant if the food is Korean concept but the chef is Japanese. I become so fuzzy because Tomo spoils my mouth a lot. Besides, its very expensive in Japan to find the native chefs of each cuisine. And if I didn't get what I want, I will cry so Tomo research a lot of restaurants in the internet near our place. The worst craving I have is the smell of Tomo's underarm. I like it especially when wet! I cant explain why? its not stink but kinda sour. hahahaha! Every time he comes back home. I will undress him and smell his underarm. He would run away so it seems like our house has a domestic violence at night. Wife rapes the husband.

The perils of my pregnancy

At 7 weeks I first knew I was pregnant. I had a urethral bleeding that is why my period is still on going. But my baby is doing good and surviving. The doctor’s advice is a complete bed rest to avoid miscarriage. I admit that occasionally me and my husband love to drink. I'm sorry for Shingo coz I drunk about 2 liters of liquor during 6 weeks of my pregnancy. I love sashimi. I ate raw fish as often as I want especially the maguro (tuna) which contains a lot of mercury. Also, I went onsen (were everybody is naked) as a part of our relaxation and recreation once a month we go to hot spring. I didn't realize I was pregnant. The water was about 40 degree which is harmful for the fetus. I pray that Shingo is healthy even though I committed a lot of mistakes to him. Being a mom and entering into motherhood needs not only care but also preparation. I believe that God gave us a gift in the right time. In my prayers He is always telling me that Shingo is will be born healthy and lovely baby.

The secret of my pregnancy

All throughout my pregnancy, I did prenatal education to my baby inside my womb. I set 5-10 minutes twice a day. One in the morning where　I can do alone, another one in the evening where my husband was around to help me.

7 weeks we found out I’m conceiving, we started talking to my fetus even though he　 was not yet fully formed. I began my prenatal classroom at the end of my second trimester. I used a series of repetitive drum rhythms to enable my baby to become aware of sounds other than your heartbeat.

At five months, when I began to feel my baby’s movement. We played games that involve and stimulate my baby’s sense of touch. This part of the Program is designed to encourage your baby to respond with others.

Inside my womb I taught Shingo 26 words which aim to teach him to associate specific sensations with specific words. These are divided into seven groups; touch-related (pat, rub), movement (sway, up), sounds (music, noise), body functions (cough, hiccup), visuals (light, dark), thermal (hot, cold), and baby moves (kick). The final Primary word is ‘not’ which can be introduced once your baby has learnt the other words. For example, he may have learnt ‘kick’ so you can teach him to stop kicking with ‘not kick’.

As part of the Prenatal Classroom,　I Exposeｄ him to a variety of music (Mozart highly recommended) and foreign language sounds. We　read and sing to him as often as possible (both Daddy and Mommy). The human brain has different centers that receive and process speech sounds and musical rhythms, so both these activities stimulate different brain areas.
My baby who received a pre-natal stimulation was able to deal with the world outside the womb. He is often more in control of his movements after birth and he appears calm, active and happy all the time.

Welcome to Mumhood

Summer season of July 26, 2007 at 10:59 a.m. Shingo was born. At 38 weeks he was born fully matured, healthy and has a capacity to survive in the outside world. He weighed 6.7 Ibs　just ideal for my small pelvic to give birth in a normal delivery. I suffered a tremendous painful labor about 24 hours and no epidural at all. Surprisingly, he was born 2 days ahead of our church wedding anniversary. He gave us a gift before the celebration of our Holy Matrimony. God is really great!


I'm really complete! Having a loving partner and a cute bugoy makes me the happiest being. Shingo is a God's master piece and a living miracle that I will forever appreciate.